Insecurities Takes You For Granted

 By  GUNJAN RATHI

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We all are humans, maybe there are some secret societies or races living between us but there are humans maximum, There isn’t a person amongst us who doesn’t have insecurities — some are just better at dealing with them, or perhaps hiding them.

We worry what other people think about us, we worry if we’re good-looking enough, we worry that our friends will leave us and find someone else, we worry that we cant leave a mark on this world, we worry that the people will forget us. we worry that we’re not doing all that we should be, we worry that we’ll fail, we worry that people will find out we’re a fraud. We worry that we’re too fat, worry if she’ll like us, worry if he likes that other girl, worry that we’re not good enough.

And social media, with its culture of getting us to want approval with likes and retweets, with its showing off amazing bodies and amazing travels and food … it only exacerbates the problem. But you know all this. People will post about there life, the things they are doing offcourse this is the thing social media is all about.

The question is: HOW DO WE OVERCOME THIS INSECURITIES?

How do we become OK with ourselves? How do we learn to find contentment and peace?

The answer isn’t simple, but it requires one thing to start with: a willingness to face what we usually don’t want to face.

That means a bit of courage. Just in small doses, to start with, but it means a willingness to set aside all the distractions for a little bit, and just focus on what you’re struggling with. Just like arjun in Mahabharat, go for the eye.

Do you have that courage? If so, let’s face this. Get started.

The Obstacles

What gets in our way to dealing with insecurities? There are obstacles littering the path. There are old wounds that have never healed.

Some of the obstacles that get in the way:

1.    Past criticisms.

2.    A negative self-image we made in our minds.

3.    We become stuck in a cycle of needing constant approval and forgets who we truly are.

4.    We learn not to trust other people to stick with us, hangout with us, to see other side understandable.

5.    We compare ourselves to the celebrities we see on social media forgetting that we should be celebrities in our own life.

6.    We don’t accept things about ourselves, we are born like this we cant change somethings we have to live with it proudly.

Those are a lot of obstacles to deal with! And that highlights why this takes courage, and why the fix isn’t simple.

But there is a way forward.

The Road to Dealing with Insecurity

Here’s the secret: The obstacles actually show us the path. The obstacles are the path.

We can embrace these obstacles and work with them. In order to do that, we need to start to develop an awareness of when our insecurities are arising. We can use them as a mindfulness bell, ringing when we are troubled by fears and mistrust, telling us, “Hey! There’s so good material to work with here.”

And that’s the key: All of our insecurities are actually an opportunity to do some good work, to learn about how we work, to develop skills that will help us for life.

So start to pay attention, and notice when you’re being driven by insecurity. And then do the following work:

1.    Forgive the past: They behave imperfectly, but we all do. They weren’t right in what they did, but you can understand it nonetheless. And forgive them for their bad behavior, because holding on to resentment isn’t helping you. Let the past go, one step at a time. I know it isn’t that easy but but you got to take this shit.

2.    Accept all of yourself:  Pause and take a self-assessment. Accept your faults, you are your own hero and nobody will be with you till the end but you.

3.    Practice self-approval: In simple words, trust your own instincts. you don’t need anyone else’s approval but your own. That doesn’t mean you don’t want connection with others, or love, but you can love others and be loved by them while also being self-approved. Accept yourself, completely, love yourself. And that’s all you need.

4.    Embrace non-comparison:  comparison with others doesn’t bring you  anything but it actively harms you. Instead, They’re on a completely different path from you, and they can be happy and have a great time and you can too, on your own path. Wish everyone well, but see their awesomeness as different from yours.

5.    Develop trust in the moment: This develops over time, by making small predictions about the moment like “This moment will turn out OK” and then seeing if the prediction comes true.

This is the path. You find the things you’re struggling with, and learn to work with them. Learn to shift your perspective. Learn to see what’s tripping you up.

This is a good path. It has helped me to be more accepting of myself, and trust myself more. And in turn, it has helped me to love myself and others more, one moment at a time.

At the top of all  HAPPY FRIENDSHIP DAY

so this oracle, signing off.

thanks for reading

gunjan rathi

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